So you want to love yourself a little more? That's awesome! You've made this glorious decision to improve the relationship you have with yourself, but then what? What exactly does one do to amp up self love? It can be tricky to figure out where to start, but I got you. There are lots of ways to start this marvelous journey, and one way doesn't triumph over another. What works for you may not work for someone else, but if you're not sure where to begin, here are 5 options you can start with.
While you're exploring all this self love goodness, check out Babe Y's session. She used boudoir to celebrate her body, which is my favorite way to repair your relationship with yourself. You deserve to be happy in your skin! Babe Y deserves that, and so do you!
1. Look into Intuitive Eating
A big part of self-hatred can be linked to a poor relationship with food. First, I want to point out that if you have an eating disorder, find a therapist who can work one on one with you. You deserve that support and guidance. If you're struggling with food guilt or dieting, look into intuitive eating. Practicing eating intuitively can start to heal how you feel about food, which inherently will start to heal how you feel about yourself. You'll learn how to honor your hunger, make peace with food, feel your fullness and cope with your emotions. You will start to recognize what your body actually needs and fuel it with love and respect, and that will start you on a great self love journey.
2. Write a List of Affirmations
Positive thinking can't fix all your problems, but there is a benefit to it. By writing and saying positive things about yourself, you'll slowly reprogram your brain. Jot down affirmations that have to do with your body, personality, abilities and more. If you journal, use that time to start adding affirmations to your routine. Otherwise, I like to write my favorites on Post-it notes and stick them around my home, especially on the mirror in my bathroom.
3. Set Up a Self Care Schedule
Take time for yourself! With our busy schedules, it's easy to push ourselves to the bottom of the to-do list. We never make ourselves a priority, but now is the time to start. Look at your calendar or planner and schedule self-care time. Work a 30 minute walk into your daily routine. Book a manicure. Let everyone in your household know that on Tuesday, you're taking an hour long bath. You deserve to take time for yourself, so put it on your calendar. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so don't think of taking time for yourself as a selfish act. It's how to replenish your cup so you can continue to love and support the folks around you.
4. Cut Out Toxic People
This is a toughie- I know that. If you can, cut ties or - at the very least - limit time with people who make you feel small or worthless. You don't owe anyone your time or energy. Delete people on social media. Decline invites to see them. I know this is especially difficult when the toxic person is a family member. Cutting people out of your life is never easy, but it will make you a happier, healthier person. If you know you have to see someone toxic, make sure it's for the smallest amount of time possible and book time afterwards to recoup.
5. Book a Boudoir Shoot
Boudoir can help you see your body in a whole new way. It's a form of photography that celebrates the body you have right now and allows you to explore your sensuality and power in a safe space. If you want to feel better about yourself but you need an encouraging hand to help you along the way, boudoir is for you. Your photographer will guide you and hype you up the entire time.
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