Why Boudoir Is So Dang Important to Me
Updated: May 26, 2020
Growing up, I never thought that boudoir photography was going to be what I did for a living. I was super duper conservative, insecure about my body, timid to even talk about sexiness and photography was always just a hobby. This was not my wheelhouse.
I was (and still am) creative, empathetic, and independent. When I first learned about boudoir, it was as a makeup artist and lighting assistant for a different studio. The more time I spent with women during their sessions, the more I grew to love this genre. Maybe boudoir was more in my wheelhouse than I thought.
I started my studio because when I moved to Port Washington, I wanted to book a session for myself and a quick Google search for a studio in town didn't really bring me any results. I (so very naively) decided I could open a boudoir studio all on my own. It hasn't been easy by any means, but I absolutely love what I do. My motivation for running this studio has completely changed since I started, and I have learned so much about what my clients need. I know how to help so much better than when I started.
Boudoir is not about creating pretty photos for me. When I first started, I assumed that's all this genre was. I figured people did this so they'd have something sexy to give a partner. That was the only reason people booked, right? No way! My mindset has totally flipped. I don't run this studio so you get some sexy photos. I run Buxom Boudoir so that you have a safe space to feel totally comfortable and at peace in your skin. I want you to laugh and be joyful without reservations about your body for once. Maybe you already have that space in your life. Awesome! If you don't, you do now.
Boudoir is important to me because it'how I help women find the joy in their bodies. I can't think of a better way for me to spread self-love. I didn't start realizing how glorious my body was until a few years ago. I don't want folks to feel the hate for their bodies that I felt for mine. That feeling is such a waste of time and energy. Boudoir is an outlet to practice self love, self care and self compassion.
Your body is your home while you're on this earth. It carries around your soul, your personality, your mind. It carries you. Why on earth should we hate something that carries such an important load? This genre of photography has taught me how to have respect for my body. It's shown me that I'm worthy of love, and I deserve to be comfortable in my skin. I've learned so much from my clients, too. I've seen their resilience, their persistence, their courage, and their hope. When they share their stories with me, I'm honored. When they trust me with their vulnerability, I think "I can be vulnerable more often." I want to be like the amazing women I work with, and it feels good knowing we're all on a self-love journey together.
I don't know what I would do if it wasn't for boudoir. This career now feels like it's the only one for me, and I have never felt so much job satisfaction before. In the last 3 years, I've grown a lot personally, and boudoir has played a major role in that. Boudoir is important to me. It's a middle finger to diet culture, unrealistic beauty standards and the patriarchy. It's permission to explore your sensuality. Boudoir is a celebration, and it's one party I never have to leave.